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FemdogloversWWBookclub “The Book of Separation” by Tova Mirvis & U Dog
September 21, 2022 @ 7:00 pm - 8:30 pm EDT
Female doglovers (no prejuduce to our fab male doglovers as wingwomen’s an all female group) & their dogs are invited to join my wingwomen (WW) bookclub.We’re having another fun & fascinating WW bclub on Wednesday, September 21 at 7pm. We’ll meet to discuss the fascinating, affecting, filled with wry humor, luminious, beautifully written, poignant, compassionate, introspective, courageous, intimate, bold memoir “The Book of Separation: A Memoir” by Tova Mirvis.
The memoir of a woman who leaves her faith and her marriage and sets out to navigate the terrifying, liberating terrain of a newly mapless world. Born and raised in a tight-knit Orthodox Jewish family, Tova Mirvis committed herself to observing the rules and rituals prescribed by this way of life. After all, to observe was to be accepted and to be accepted was to be loved. She married a man from within the fold and quickly began a family. But over the years, her doubts became noisier than her faith, and at age forty she could no longer breathe in what had become a suffocating existence. Even though it would mean the loss of her friends, her community, and possibly even her family, Tova decides to leave her husband and her faith. After years of trying to silence the voice inside her that said she did not agree, did not fit in, did not believe, she strikes out on her own to discover what she does believe and who she really is. This will mean forging a new way of life not just for herself, but for her children, who are struggling with what the divorce and her new status as “not Orthodox” means for them. This is a memoir about what it means to decide to heed your inner compass at long last. To free the part of yourself that has been suppressed, even if it means walking away from the only life you’ve ever known. Honest and courageous, Tova takes us through her first year outside her marriage and community as she learns to silence her fears and seek adventure on her own path to happiness.
We’ll discuss this book & have a fabulous time, be stimulated, enjoy wonderful company, friendship & bond-all in one evening!Hope to see you on September 21 & also if we’re all fortunate at prior bookclubs.
“Tova Mirvis has already established herself as a first-rate novelist with The Ladies Auxiliary, The Outside World, and Visible City. With The Book of Separation: A Memoir, Mirvis shifts genres, reveals some of the autobiographical germs of her fiction, and compellingly chronicles the process of separating from Orthodoxy…The respect for intra-Jewish difference that Mirvis models for her children—and for readers—is a precious gift to the Jewish literary world… Beautiful and poignant.” Lilith Magazine
“An intimate tale of departure….[Tova Mirvis] movingly conveys the heartache that accompanies the abandonment of one way of life in search of another.” New York Times Book Review, An Editors’ Choice
“In this poignant memoir, Mirvis chronicles her decision, at 40, to finally listen to the voice in her head telling her to leave her religion, her marriage, and her family. She explores what it means to truly be yourself, even if it means giving up everything you’ve ever known.” Real Simple, “TheBestNewBooks to Read ThisMonth”
Capable of both wry humor and darkly apt turns of phrase, Mirvis is a gifted writer reflecting on her identity: first through the prism of organized religion, then through a self-charted life.” ChicagoTribune
“Mirvis’s experience of Orthodox Judaism is vivid and particular, but her questions—about love and belonging, community & isolation, striking out into new soul terrain without a map—are universal. Luminous, unsettling and fiercely brave, Mirvis’s memoir insists on a simple but earth-shattering truth: ‘there are other ways to be.'” ShelfAwareness
“The author’s sensitive thematic treatment of belonging and individuality and her candor about the terror she experienced leaving the only community she had ever known makes for moving, inspiring reading. A thoughtful, courageous memoir of family, religion, and self-discovery.” KirkusReviews
Mirvis intimately chronicles her divorce and her separation from modern Orthodox Judaism in this bold memoir…Hers is a story of grief and rebirth. She is compassionate and judicious in her portrayal of Orthodox Judaism, even as she describes its repressive attitudes toward women; she discusses the diverse Jewish lifestyles, from Hasidic to secular. Her personal journey makes for an introspective and fascinating story.” PublishersWeekly
“As [Mirvis] begins her memoir, she documents what it feels like to leave her husband and religion…The author has shared custody of three school-age children & a budding romance, both of which she negotiates with gentle aplomb. Her interior narrative voice draws readers in, asking if she can be loved for who she is, not who she was, especially in her withdrawal from her natal religion. VERDICT: A soothing picture of personal and religious divorce.” Library Journal